Over the Fourth of July weekend, we were in New York visiting family. My cousin recently had a baby and also has a lively two-year-old. My son spent the entire time playing with his little cousin—so gentle, kind, and patient with her.
A few days later, I received a message from my cousin saying, “Your son is such a great kid. I hope my children grow up to be just like him.”
Of course, I was incredibly proud. But this isn’t a blog post to brag about my child. That message sparked a deeper reflection: How much of this compliment is really about me… and how much of it is about our school?
As parents, we pour so much love into raising our children—but let’s be honest, we’re not always the ones spending most of the day with them. Between school, after-school activities, meals, and bedtime routines, the windows for those deeper “teaching moments” at home can be limited. So, who’s really helping shape the people our children are becoming?
I began thinking about other stories parents have shared with me over the years:
One parent told me that after their child transitioned to a new school, they received an award right away—for being the kindest, most caring student. She was certain it was because of the foundation built at the Academy.
Another parent described a moment at the playground. A small child was crying after being left out of a game. Her child and a group of Academy classmates noticed, walked over, and warmly invited him to join in. She said she’d never been prouder.
I know many of you have similar stories. You might be wondering: How does the school do that? What’s the secret?
Well, I’ll share a few of them.
At the heart of our approach are the IB Learner Profile attributes—qualities like being caring, open-minded, reflective, and principled. These aren’t just words on a wall; they’re lived, modeled, and celebrated every single day by the adults in our building.
Children learn through observation. When they consistently see respectful, empathetic behavior modeled by their teachers and peers, they begin to reflect those same values.
We also teach children to recognize when something doesn’t align with our values—and how to respond from the “I perspective.” Instead of relying on adult intervention, they’re empowered to stand up, speak up, and resolve conflict thoughtfully and respectfully.
And we celebrate these moments. When a child shows compassion, stands up for a friend, or makes a principled decision, we shine a spotlight on it. That positive reinforcement ripples through the entire community.
As a parent, and as a member of this school community, I’m so proud of what we’re building together. The partnership between families and the Academy is what helps raise kind, confident, thoughtful children—and future changemakers.
This is the Academy difference.
Leyla Goldfinger, P '34PYP/MYP Coordinator
Harrisburg Academy